COMPASSION: A REFLECTION ON THE CHRISTIAN LIFE
by Henri Nouwen, Donald McNeill, and Douglas Morrison
COMPASSION: A REFLECTION ON THE CHRISTIAN LIFE IN SOLIDARITY
God is a compassionate God. This means, first of all, that he is a God who has chosen to be God-with-us. To be able to know and feel better this divine solidarity, let us explore the experience of someone being truly with us.
When do we receive real comfort and consolation? Is it when someone teaches us how to think or act? Is it when we receive advice about where to go or what to do? Is it when we hear words of reassurance and hope? Sometimes, perhaps. But what really counts is that in moments of pain and suffering someone stays with us. More important than any particular action or word of advice is the simple presence of someone who cares. When someone says to us in the midst of a crisis, "I do not know what to say or what to do, but I want you to realize that I am with you, that I will not leave you alone," we have a friend through whom we can find consolation and comfort. In a time so filled with methods and techniques designed to change people, to influence their behavior, and to make them do new things and think new thoughts, we have lost the simple but difficult gift of being present to each other. We have lost this gift because we have been led to believe that presence must be useful. We say, "Why should I visit this person? I can't do anything anyway. I don't even have anything to say. Of what use can I be?" Meanwhile, we have forgotten that it is often in "useless," unpretentious, humble presence to each other that we feel consolation and comfort. Simply being with someone is difficult because it asks of us that we share in the other's vulnerability, enter with him or her into the experience of weakness and powerlessness, become part of uncertainty, and give up control and self-determination. And still, whenever this happens, new strength and new hope is being born. Those who offer us comfort and consolation by being and staying with us in moments of illness, mental anguish, or spiritual darkness often grow as close to us as those with whom we have biological ties. They show their solidarity with us by willingly entering the dark, uncharted spaces of our lives. For this reason, they are the ones who bring new hope and help us discover new directions.
These reflections offer only a glimpse of what we mean when we say that God is a God-with-us, a God who came to share our lives in solidarity. It does not mean that God solves our problems, shows us the way out of our confusion, or offers answers for our many questions. He might do all of that, but his solidarity consists in the fact that he is willing to enter with us into our problems, confusions, and questions.
That is the good news of God's taking on human flesh. The Evangelist Matthew, after describing the birth of Jesus, writes: "Now all this took place to fulfill the words spoken by the Lord through the prophet: 'The Virgin shall conceive and give birth to a son and they will call him Immanuel,' a name which means 'God-is-with-us'" (Mt 1: 22~23).
As soon as we call God, "God-is-with-us," we enter into a new relationship of intimacy with him. By calling him Immanuel, we recognize that he has committed himself to live in solidarity with us, to share our joys and pains, to defend and protect us, and to suffer all of life with us. The God-with-us is a close God, a God whom we call our refuge, our stronghold, our wisdom, and even, more intimately, our helper, our shepherd, our love. We will never really know God as a compassionate God if we do not understand with our heart and mind that "he lived among us" Jn 1: 14).
Often we say to each other in a bitter tone: "You do not know what you are talking about because you did not march in protest, participate in the strike, or experience the hatred of the bystanders, because you were never hungry, never knew cold, or never felt real isolation." When we say such things, we express the deep conviction that we are willing to listen to consoling words only when they are born out of solidarity with the condition that was or is ours. God wants to know our condition fully and does not want to take away any pain which he himself has not fully tasted. His compassion is anchored in the most intimate solidarity, a solidarity that allows us to say with the psalmist, "This is our God, and we are the people he pastures, the flock that he guides" (Ps 95:7).
WITH GUT FEELINGS
How do we know this is anything more than a beautiful idea? How do we know that God is Our God and not a stranger, an outsider, a passerby?
We know this because in Jesus, God's compassion became visible to us. Jesus not only said, "Be compassionate as your Father is compassionate," but he also was the concrete embodiment of this divine compassion in our world. Jesus' response to the ignorant, the hungry, the blind, the lepers, the widows, and all those who came to him with their suffering, flowed from the divine compassion which led God to become one of us. We need to pay close attention to Jesus' words and actions if we are to gain insight into the mystery of this divine compassion. We would misunderstand the many miraculous stories in the Gospels if we were to be impressed simply by the fact that sick and tormented people were suddenly liberated from their pains. If this were indeed the central event of these stories, a cynic might rightly remark that most people during Jesus' day were not cured and that those who were cured only made it worse for those who were not. What is important here is not the cure of the sick, but the deep compassion that moved Jesus to these cures.
There is a beautiful expression in the Gospels that appears only twelve times and is used exclusively in reference to Jesus or his Father. That expression is "to be moved with compassion." The Greek verb splangchnizomai reveals to us the deep and powerful meaning of this expression. The splangchna are the entrails of the body, or as we might say today, the guts. They are the place where our most intimate and intense emotions are located. They are the center from which both passionate love and passionate hate grow. When the Gospels speak about Jesus' compassion as his being moved in the entrails, they are expressing something very deep and mysterious. The compassion that Jesus felt was obviously quite different from superficial or passing feelings of sorrow or sympathy. Rather, it extended to the most vulnerable part of his being. It is related to the Hebrew word for compassion, rachamim, which refers to the womb of Yahweh. Indeed, compassion is such a deep, central, and powerful emotion in Jesus that it can only be described as a movement of the womb of God. There, all the divine tenderness and gentleness lie hidden. There, God is father and mother, brother and sister, son and daughter. There, all feelings, emotions, and passions are one in divine love. When Jesus was moved to compassion, the source of all life trembled, the ground of all love burst open, and the abyss of God's immense, inexhaustible, and unfathomable tenderness revealed itself.
This is the mystery of God's compassion as it becomes visible in the healing stories of the New Testament. When Jesus saw the crowd harassed and dejected like sheep without a shepherd, he felt with them in the center of his being (Mt 9:36). When he saw the blind, the paralyzed, and the deaf being brought to him from all directions, he trembled from within and experienced their pains in his own heart (Mt 14:14). When he noticed that the thousands who had followed him for days were tired and hungry, he said, I am moved with compassion (Mk 8:2). And so it was with the two blind men who called after him (Mt 9:27), the leper who fell to his knees in front of him (Mk 1:41), and the widow of Nain who was burying her only son (Lk 7: 13). They moved him, they made him feel with all his intimate sensibilities the depth of their sorrow. He became lost with the lost, hungry with the hungry, and sick with the sick. In him, all suffering was sensed with a perfect sensitivity. The great mystery revealed to us in this is that Jesus, who is the sinless son of God, chose in total freedom to suffer fully our pains and thus to let us discover the true nature of our own passions. In him, we see and experience the persons we truly are. He who is divine lives our broken humanity not as a curse (Gn 3:14-19), but as a blessing. His divine compassion makes it possible for us to face our sinful selves, because it transforms our broken human condition from a cause of despair into a source of hope.
This is what we mean when we say that Jesus Christ reveals God's solidarity with us. In and through Jesus Christ we know that God is our God, a God who has experienced our brokenness, who has become sin for us (2 Co 5:21). He has embraced everything human with the infinite tenderness of his compassion.
TOWARD NEW LIFE
But what about the cures? Did not the blind see, the lepers become pure, the paralyzed walk again, and the widow see her son come back to life? Is that not what counts? Is that not what proves that God is God and he really loves us? Let us be very careful with our pragmatism. It was out of his compassion that Jesus' healing emerged. He did not cure to prove, to impress, or to convince. His cures were the natural expression of his being our God. The mystery of God's love is not that he takes our pains away, but that he first wants to share them with us. Out of this divine solidarity comes new life. Jesus' being moved in the center of his being by human pain is indeed a movement toward new life. God is our God, the God of the living. In his divine womb life is always born again. The great mystery is not the cures, but the infinite compassion which is their source.
We know too well what it means when cures are performed without compassion. We have seen men and women who can walk again, see again, speak again, but whose hearts remain dark and bitter. We know too well that cures not born out of care are false cures leading not to light but to darkness. Let us not fool ourselves with a shortcut to new life. The many cures by Jesus recorded in the Gospels can never be separated from his being with us. They witness to the infinite fecundity of his divine compassion, and show us the beautiful fruits of his solidarity with our condition. The truly good news is that God is not a distant God, a God to be feared and avoided, a God of revenge, but a God who is moved by our pains and participates in the fullness of the human struggle. The miraculous cures in the Gospels are hopeful and joyful reminders of this good news, which is our true consolation and comfort.
OUR COMPETITIVE SELVES
When we take a critical look at ourselves, we have to recognize that competition, not compassion, is our main motivation in life. We find ourselves deeply immersed in all sorts of competition. Our whole sense of self is dependent upon the way we compare ourselves with others and upon the differences we can identify. When the question "Who am I?" is put to the powers of this world-school officials, church representatives, placement officers, athletic directors, factory managers, television and radio announcers-the answer is simply, "You are the difference you make." It is by our differences, distinctions, that we are recognized, honored, rejected, or despised. Whether we are more or less intelligent, practical, strong, fast, handy, or handsome depends upon those with whom we are compared or those with whom we compete. It is upon these positive or negative distinctions that much of our self-esteem depends. It does not take much reflection to realize that in all family problems, race conflicts, class confrontations, and national or international disputes, these real or imaginary distinctions play a central role. Indeed, we invest much of our energy in defending the differences between people and groups of people. Thus, we define ourselves in ways that require us to maintain distance from one another. We are very protective of our "trophies." After all, who are we if we cannot proudly point to something special that sets us apart from others?
This all-pervasive competition, which reaches into the smallest corners of our relationships, prevents us from entering into full solidarity with each other, and stands in the way of our being compassionate. We prefer to keep compassion on the periphery of our competitive lives. Being compassionate would require giving up dividing lines and relinquishing differences and distinctions. And that would mean losing our identities! This makes it clear why the call to be compassionate is so frightening and evokes such deep resistance.
This fear, which is very real and influences much of our behavior, betrays our deepest illusions: that we can forge our own identities; that we are the collective impressions of our surroundings; that we are the trophies and distinctions we have won. This, indeed, is our greatest illusion. It makes us into competitive people who compulsively cling to our differences and defend them at all cost, even to the point of violence.
A NEW SELF
The compassion Jesus offers challenges us to give up our fearful clinging and to enter with him into the fearless life of God himself. In saying, "Be compassionate as your Father is compassionate," Jesus invites us to be as close to each other as God is to us. He even asks us to love one another with God's own compassion. A divine compassion is a compassion without the slightest tinge of competition. Therefore, only God can be wholly compassionate because only he is not in competition with us. The paradox of God's compassion is that God can be compassionate because he is God; that is, wholly other than we are. Because God is wholly other, he can become wholly as we are. He can become so deeply human because he is so fully divine. In short, God can be fully compassionate because he does not compare himself with us and thus is in no way in competition with us.
Jesus' command, "Be compassionate as your Father is compassionate," is a command to participate in the compassion of God himself. He requires us to unmask the illusion of our competitive selfhood, to give up clinging to our imaginary distinctions as sources of identity, and to be taken up into the same intimacy with God which he himself knows. This is the mystery of the Christian life: to receive a new self, a new identity, which depends not on what we can achieve, but on what we are willing to receive. This new self is our participation in the divine life in and through Christ. Jesus wants us to belong to God as he belongs to God; he wants us to be children of God as he is a child of God; he wants us to let go of the old life, which is so full of fears and doubts, and to receive the new life, the life of God himself. In and through Christ we receive a new identity that enables us to say, "I am not the esteem I can collect through competition, but the love I have freely received from God." It allows us to say with Paul, "I live now not with my own life but with the life of Christ who lives in me" (Ga 2:20).
This new self, the self of Jesus Christ, makes it possible for us to be compassionate as our Father is compassionate. Through union with him, we are lifted out of our competitiveness with each other into the divine wholeness. By sharing in the wholeness of the one in whom no competition exists, we can enter into new, compassionate relationships with each other. By accepting our identities from the one who is the giver of all life, we can be with each other without distance or fear. This new identity, free from greed and desire for power, allows us to enter so fully and unconditionally into the sufferings of others that it becomes possible for us to heal the sick and call the dead to life. When we share in God's compassion, a whole new way of living opens itself to us, a way of living we glimpse in the lives of the Apostles and those great Christians who have witnessed for Christ through the centuries. This divine compassion is not, like our self-made compassion, part of the competition. Rather, it is the expression of a new way of living in which interpersonal comparisons, rivalries, and competitions are gradually left behind.
Paul gives us a beautiful example of this new-found compassion in his letter to the Philippians. There he writes: “God is my witness how much I miss you all with the tender compassion [the splangchna] of Christ Jesus” (Ph 1:8). Paul feels for his people with the same divine intensity that Jesus felt for those who came to him with their pain. The mystery is that Paul loves his people with a divine intimacy. His compassion is thus much more than mere sympathy or emotional attachment. It is the expression of his new being in Christ. In Christ, Paul has become capable of the all-embracing and deeply moving compassion of God. He therefore says, "I miss you in the splangchna of Christ," that is, with Christ's own most intimate divine interiority. Paul's new life in Christ, through which he was lifted above rivalry and competition, allowed him to extend divine compassion to his people. This reveals to us the great mystery of Paul's ministry. He touched people with God's compassion, a compassion so deep and so full that it could not fail to bear fruit. This also is the mystery of our new way of being together. It has become possible to be together in compassion because we have been given a share in God's compassion. In and through this compassion, we can begin to live in solidarity with each other as fully and intimately as God lives with us.
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Chapter VIII – The Heart of Christ
Rule of Life, 2007
112. Christ in Our Life
Our founders made us heirs of their devotion
to the Sacred Heart of Jesus.
And so Christ, in his mystery of love,
holds first place in our life
as Brothers of the Sacred Heart.
He is our reference point
and the center of our motivations,
just as he is the very principle
of our total self-offering
and of our apostolic action.
113. An Eternal Love
The Heart of Jesus bears and reveals
the eternal love with which God
traced the whole history of humanity.
His heart also expresses the intense divine
and human affection which Jesus experienced
through his incarnation
to the point of offering his life
so that we might all become sons
of the Father.
In our everyday lives, Christ continues
to lavish his love on us by his presence
and by the attention, friendship and
affection we receive from our brothers.
114. The Open Heart
The gospel reveals the pierced side
of the Savior
as the source of the life-giving Spirit,
the channel and symbol of divine love.
From his open side
from which blood and water flowed,
the Church and its sacraments were born.
He invites all to his heart
"to draw water with joy
from the springs of salvation."
115. Book of God’s Love
Meditation on Scripture
leads us to discover
the loving plan of God
which attains its supreme expression
in the redemptive death of the Son.
Indeed, "The kindness and love of God"
116. The Eucharist, Celebration of Love
The Eucharistic celebration
is our primary act of homage
to the love of the Savior.
It is also the memorial
of Jesus’ ultimate act of love for us:
"A man can have no greater love than to
lie down his life for his friends." Jn 15:13
Our participation in the Eucharist
unites us to Christ,
offering the Father the perfect act
of adoration, thanksgiving,
reconciliation, and intercession.
117. Love for Love
The Mystical Body has not yet reached
its full stature.
Our dedication to the exclusive service
of Christ’s love
contributes to the growth of the Church
and hastens the coming of the kingdom of love.
Yet love is not always accepted;
refusals and delays are part of our lives.
That is why, in a spirit of reparation,
we make up in our bodies what is lacking
in the sufferings of Christ,
accepting the hardships inherent in our lives
as consecrated men and apostles.
118. Love of Neighbor
"I have come to bring fire to the earth,
and how I wish it were blazing already." Lk 12:49
This ardent desire of Jesus can only
inflame our hearts and excite our zeal.
Thus our love for our brothers
and the young people in our care
radiates the love that Jesus has for us.
Our dedication to others, marked by respect,
kindness, and concern, will be a sign
to them of the compassion of Christ.
119. The Immaculate Heart of Mary
From its origins, our Institute has linked
devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus
with devotion to the Immaculate Heart of Mary.
We receive Mary, our mother, as a gift
from Jesus on the cross:
"This is your mother." Jn 19:27
We ask her, who "stored all these things
in her heart," Lk 2:51 to help us enter ever more
deeply into the mystery of Christ’s love.
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The apostles gathered together with Jesus and reported all they had done and taught. He said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a deserted place and rest a while.” People were coming and going in great numbers, and they had no opportunity even to eat. So they went off in the boat by themselves to a deserted place. People saw them leaving and many came to know about it. They hastened there on foot from all the towns and arrived at the place before them. When he disembarked and saw the vast crowd, his heart was moved with pity for them, for they were like sheep without a shepherd; and he began to teach them about many things.